Karim

Relationship means something complete, finished, closed. Love is never a relationship; love is relating. It is always a river, flowing, unending. Love knows no full stop; the honeymoon begins but never ends. It is not like a novel that starts at a certain point and ends at a certain point. It is an ongoing phenomenon. Lovers end, love continues. It is a continuum........ Love is alive because it is insecure, and marriage is dead because it is secure. So love never becomes marriage. The deeper it becomes, the more it becomes love, not marriage. By marriage I mean an external constraint, a legal license, a social sanction. Love never turns into marriage, because love is never secure. Love remains love. It turns into more and more love, but the more love there is, the more insecure it is. There is no security in love. But if you are in love, you don't worry about security at all. When you are not in love, it is only when you care about security. When you are in love, the present moment is so much that you don't care about the next moment, the future doesn't matter to you. What happens tomorrow doesn't concern you - because what is happening now is so much. It is so much and unbearable that you don't care. Why does #security come to mind? It is because of the #future. The #present is not enough, so you are afraid of the future. In fact, you are not rooted in the present. You do not enjoy the present. The present has no pleasure. Then you hope for the future, you plan for the future, then you want to create any security for the future. Love never wants to create any security, it is security itself. That is the point. Love is so secure in itself that it never thinks about security; what happens in the future is not at all of love's concern. Because the future grows out of the present, and if the present is so alive and joyful, the future will grow out of it. Why worry about it? When the "now" is not a joy, when the "now" is a disaster, then you worry about the #future. Then you want to make it safe and secure. But remember, no one can make anything secure. That is not the nature of things. The future will remain insecure. You can only do one thing: live the "now" more deeply. That is all you can do. If any security comes from that, that will be the only security possible. And if such security does not come, it has not come - nothing can be done. But our minds are completely #suicidal. The more miserable the present is, the more you think about the future and want to make it safe. And the more you move into the future, the more miserable the present will be. Then you will move in a vicious circle. This circle can be broken, but the only way to break it is to live the present moment so deeply that in its depth it becomes eternity. The future will be born from it, the future will have its own course, there is no need to worry about it. That is why I say that love never thinks of security, because love is very secure in itself. Love is never afraid of insecurity. If there is love, it is not afraid of insecurity. Life is insecure, but love is not afraid of insecurity. On the contrary, love enjoys insecurity, because it adds color to life, the changing seasons and different moods give life its rhythm. It's beautiful. A changing life is beautiful because there's always something to discover, always something new to encounter. In reality, two people in love are always discovering each other. And the view is endless. A loving heart has an infinite view. You can never finish it. It is endless like space.